Sunday, October 03, 2010

My dad appeared in a dream

My dad finally appeared in a dream of mine, nearly 3 months after his death. I've heard from others that when a loved one appears in your dream it can be comforting. Then again, my mom dreamt of my dad constantly after he died and she was afraid. In her dreams he was laughing and joking and she thought somehow he was going to pull her to the other side.

Luckily in my dream it was a positive one. My dad appeared to me in my dream as a ghost. I knew that he had died. I cried. We held hands.

I woke up and immediately told my husband I dreamt of my dad. When he asked me what happened in the dream, I was still groggy and answered, "It's complicated."

I was so happy to see him, even if he was just a ghost. The loss of my father has been devastating. Life must go on and I have a husband and small child to take care of, as well as a new job. Yet, I still cry everyday. The pain is still very much present. So in a strange way, the dream gave me some comfort.


Trailhead said...

Elizabeth Lesser wrote about grieving her father and having such dreams in "Broken Open":

"Perhaps I would be in the middle of another dream, and quite suddenly, out of context, he would just show up -- like a festive character from the wrong play. And always, the unspoken message flowing between us would be that we loved each other. Nothing fancy or sentimental -- just a clear, sweet exchange of a profound depth of feeling."

I'm glad there was comfort, friend.

Rose said...

I'll check out the book. Thanks for the recommendation!